Step Parenting, the ugly.

Hello friends,

I will start a series today. It will be highlighting step parenting and the struggles that face step families. I will be giving examples of how the struggles are real! Problems come up from the most unexpected situations… When two homes and two different parents are involved and they do not get along, well … Life gets pretty interesting! We have dealt with issues over the most insignificant things along with more serious challenges.

Looking back, I would do things differently. Hopefully my struggles will help others in similar situations…. you are not alone!

The last time I sat across a table in a public library to address issues between my stepdaughter and her new stepdad I got yelled at and called a self righteous jerk. I remember thinking in my head…. This is not how this was supposed to turn out… If I could go back to 2006 I would do things differently….

I would completely remove myself from the picture when it comes to addressing or discussing my stepchildren. I would have encouraged and helped my husband’s relationship with his ex-wife, versus trying to fix problems that came up. I would have never tried to have a relationship with her, I would have focused on the children. You cannot completely avoid the relationship all together but I would not make it a point in my life. While it would be easier if the bio-mom shared all good and bad of the children, I am a good mom without it. That’s what I failed to see.

I wanted a relationship grounded in dialogue. To talk openly with each other and expect the other person to be objective, neutral, and nonjudgmental. I wanted to co-parent. I wanted all of us to be friends and celebrate the special link that exists between us and connects us all, the same children we were raising.

I have been holding on to the hope that one day she’d understand me, she just needed time. I know that hoping for something from someone else is not healthy. Be your own person; and if the other parent refuses to cooperate, then do your job and be grateful you have the opportunity to give and get love from the addition in your life. I have been involved with my step kiddos for over 10 years and to this day, I have never been asked to dinner, lunch or even coffee by their mother to discuss her children and my role in their life. As she wrote in emails to their dad, his opinion of me was sufficient for her. No need to meet me or get to know me…. Ever.

Still, I was waiting for her to see me for who I am instead of the person she believes me to be. I believed, wrongly, since she stepped out and chose someone else, that she would not be jealous of me and instead be supportive. Remember, the jealousy will be there. She lost a good man and I gained one… her choices will not keep her regrets at bay. I was thoughtful, caring, compassionate and above all, extremely patient with her. You have to believe in yourself. It’s not about you. It’s her attitude and you cannot change that. It’s emotions, not logic, and you can’t reason with someone that is emotional. I tried explaining myself if an opportunity was given, and my husband did the best he could explaining our decisions. I wanted so badly to change her misperceptions. This is a losing battle. Regardless of how sound our decision was, it was always wrong in her eyes. An example of this is a child failing to complete school assignments due to having more interest in the games on a phone we were paying for. The phone was taken away until school work was a priority again. We were wrong to make that decision, and the child should have access to his phone for her to contact him when needed (as if parents always had this option in life). I did cease communication a few times, removing myself from a text group between the parents, and sending an email saying I will remove myself from the communication; it was always temporarily, never consistent or permanent. Remember, if you make a decision regarding the relationship between households, stick to it. Don’t make a decision out of emotions.. Think through it. Sound it off to friends and neutral parties, and if it is the right decision, then make it and stick to it.

When someone is accusatory and demeaning to you, and is completely stuck in their own reality and incapable of seeing you in any other light, you have to protect yourself. Even when you don’t want to take action. You shouldn’t start or continue an argument, but you definitely should correct the record and give the facts. Remember, their behavior is probably based on emotions and not facts.

I have waited years for an apology from someone who deliberately called me names and shamed me for my decisions as a stepmom. I have been waiting for her to own up to her behavior as she expects others to own up to their behavior. Stop waiting…. if it happens, then do a happy dance; if it doesn’t, then let it go and focus on being the best parent you can be.

I have now realized that it isn’t her job to take care of my feelings or treat me respectfully. To comfort me. It is my job. Don’t let someone else dictate your emotions, feelings, or happiness. They are your emotions, take control of them and live your life accordingly.

My relationship with her children is amazingly good. I will expand on my relationship in upcoming posts, but know this: my husband and I never gave in on the “rules”, because we are strict parents and will always be such. At times it has been hard due to knowing the kids have a harder than normal situation, but you have to parent, and have found my relationship with all my kids (yes, I see my step kiddos as my own) stronger than ever. In the roughest of times (an unforeseen situation between my stepdaughter and her step dad) my relationship with my kids stayed strong, and grew even closer.

I hope that by sharing the situations that have challenged me along with giving lessons that I learned, if you’re in a similar situation, you gain some insight and know you are not alone.


Time To Catch Up!

Hello friends,
I have been gone for almost two years! SO much has happened in two little years. Halloween is my least favorite holiday but I know plenty of people that love it and have the best decorated homes just as any other holiday…. Maybe one I will get into it. I do own a few spiders and jack o lanterns, so I am not so bad plus its my birthday.
Baby H is a thriving four year old now and trying to come up with his own rules.
At four years old my baby boy loves to spend time playing with his older siblings. The relationship that exist between my youngest and the oldest kiddos is amazingly great. The Older Ones love taking care of him and seem to have the most patience with him. The Little Ones (each fourteen years old) seem to be less sensitive to his “needs” and definitely show less patience for his wants! Although it may sound as if my two fourteen year old girls don’t care for their baby bro too much, they do. I know that they just going through the tough transitional years of adjusting to their independent thinking that gets a reality check by mean ol mom and dad….
My Little Ones di surprise me at time with their ability to change from annoyance to pure delight and interest in all their baby brother does or says… our next youngest, my green eyed daughter seems to share a special bond with her baby brother. Their bond started early one… story time, tucking baby in bed, bathing baby, special one on one play times, their relationship is truly heartwarming. I had my concerns with her overall take on baby coming home as she was Daddy’s little girl and loved being our “baby”. Those worries were for nothing as are most…
Baby H and the Older Ones relationship is great! So far so good.
Sometimes I play tricks on my older kiddos and tell them I am pregnant again, they all yell at the same time “NOOOOOO”…. Hey! I can have some fun too, can’t be all serious and no fun all the time….right? I guess five kids in their mind is enough!
I look forward to blogging again. I will catch everyone up on the happenings and bring back some great recipes as we cook them… Oh and first up is our effort to go Paleo (us parents only for now) clean eating in todays world! Could there be more of a challenge?

Row, Row, Row Your Boat..

Yesterday our little ones did a practice 5K run with their school program, Girls On The Run.

This week we are a family of seven. So things get a little more interesting!! Add hunting season, holidays, and well… I can promise you that my days are far from boring!!!

It was hectic with schedules and making it work so that everyone was there for support and encouragement!

Yesterday’s run was a practice run with their buddy that will run with each girl on the real race later in the month. I texted my stepdaughter’s mom and asked her about the race. She was able to make it and my stepson ran with his other sister, my babycakes.

I often have this wild fantasy where both households get along and this woman who is the mother of two amazing kids I am raising actually treats me as any other person in her life. A friend, a family member, a teacher to her kiddos, an employee at her job, a stranger at the grocery store…. Anyone, I would take anything other than the stepmom she has such a hard time dealing with.

I did what I do anytime she is around. I removed myself and stayed in the background. I allowed her children to be with their “real” mom. I had a great time loving in my other kids, two girls and a rascal baby boy. I cheered like crazy for all the runners including my stepdaughter and her “real” mom.
Hopefully my crazy mom cheering was not too much to handle for her. All my kids know me better. They are used to the craziness and have fun with it.

At the end of the day, it is always worth it.


Teenagers, Tweens, and Toddlers

Hi,  Friends!

It has been over a year since my last post!

Our teenagers are now in high school, our tweens are in middle school and our almost three year old is running around pointing at things and demanding them!

Sometimes I feel as though they are all the same age. The similarities between these three age groups are scary!

We were able to navigate through the unbelievably craziness that is a child entering adolescent with our two Older kiddos. Boy and Girl. Yeah, it was not fun!

We are now going through it again with our  “Little ones”. Both girls are two tough cookies.

Sometimes I just want to put them both in a corner facing a wall and just leave them there for as long as it takes me to feel good about continuing with my day. Instead I give a simple correction like the ones my toddler gets.

What you permit, you promote!

Kids and Puberty do not mix well!

A few highlights from my personal experience so far from Tweens and Teenagers:

Girls are meaner.

Boys care even less than you ever imagine a child caring.

Girls wake up one day and want to shave every hair off their body and have an interest in things like fashion,  what everyone else is wearing, what everyone else is saying, what everyone else is eating, and what celebrities are doing… the list is endless but you get the point!

Boys start to like girls a whole lot more than before.

They become sloppy liars and the lies are more frequent if they are not caught early.

You are never right!

They are always right!

You are not cool anymore

You are not funny anymore

You are not to show too much affection in public

You are not ever fair

You are not nice

You are mean

They take twice as long to get ready. I find it CRAZY that my older child does not wear make up, does not make her own lunch, snacks are ready for her and she still takes longer than anyone in this household to put on clothes and comb her hair.. I. Don’t. Get. It.

Girls start spending more time in the bathroom (this can be hard on a household where bathroom time and availability is already an issues!)

Boys spend even more time in the bathroom

Everything is a big deal…An Emergency. It. Must. Be. Done. Now.

Self righteousness is the new attitude! They are better than everyone else, they cannot believe the stupidity they have to put up with, the mean teachers, the injustice, the blatant inconsideration by everyone for their feelings and opinions.

They are eating everything in sight or not even anything at all… You have to watch their eating habits. If you run out of something they are eating, it will be the end of the world and a matter of Life or Death!

They also wake up one day and no longer like lettuce, ham, bread, mayonnaise, insert any food product that they have managed to eat and enjoy their whole life…… WTFork!!!!!

Eventually the cute memories you have of your child wanting to be tucked in bed, wanting to hold your hand as you walk into target or just wanting to talk to you every night at bed time, well those memories become a thing of the past and the new becomes the normal. You adjust expectations, change rules, and life goes on.

I have a break every other week – Too bad I can’t drop off my daughter with my stepson. The thought does cross my mind… If only we were friends, his “real” mom and I.

Kids that have divorced parents and are shuffled between two homes can try to manipulate their situation to benefit them. We have had several issues with our two kiddos that travel back and forth between mom and dad. Read all about it here!

I am thankful for the good times and work hard daily at looking for the positive, It is pretty awesome to watch them become independent thinkers and work through their new challenges as young adults…. perspective is everything!


What have you learned about parenting an adolescent? 






Time flies when you are having fun..

Hi, Friends!

It has been so long since my last post. My kiddos have been asking about my blog and why won’t i blog… They may be my biggest fans… very awesome.

Life has been busy, busy, busy!

Baby H is now past his 1st birthday and is doing all he can do to run our household… He knows his status and makes the most of it. He is getting into everything and loves the stairs more than Mommy, or at least I feel like it a few times a day…

Haskell was baptized earlier in the year and we now have two teenagers and two 11 year olds running this place too… 3 of my 4 older kiddos are now in Middle School and one is left in Elementary, that makes my mornings lots of fun!

We were blessed to celebrate the wedding of my beautiful niece Lauren to the wonderful Dane! The wedding was in Napa Valley … I fell in love with Napa…

We also had an amazing summer vacation.

I really do not know how to use my iPhoto and will eventually have a child old enough to do it for me. These pictures are from the special events we have experienced so far in 2014.

Happy Tuesday!

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Happy New Year!

Hi, Friends! Happy New Year to everyone!!! How were the holidays? We had great times up to Christmas Day, everything went down hill from that day….
There is so much to cover folks, so I am giving it in pictures!
I can't believe 2013 is gone, December was fun and full of excitement!
We decorated the house with our Christmas Tree, Fiddle our elf came to visit and this time he was pretty lazy to say the least.
We had an ice storm that was truly a fun time to enjoy with the family.
We had a blast at our annual Santa's Cookies at aunt Linda's!
Christmas morning was magnificent, kiddos were very happy, Mom and Dad did not complain either!
After enjoying our goodies from Santa and family, we headed over to aunt Linda's to do some more celebrating. The remainder of December was spent nursing sniffly runny noses, coughing 24 hours a day and being diagnosed with the Flu!!!

Very Little decorating this year, 2013 was a lazy year that started to get more active towards the end!!

Rocky, our goldendoodle would not get out of the picture, i tried about 10 times!

Kiley brough joy to some folks with her National Elementary Honor Society 🙂


We had an ice storm that froze everything, as usual the kids had a blast!

Heading out to venture into the iceness! I made up a game of conquering the ice without falling and I was the first one to go down, HARD! I even had a few cuts on my hands!

Santa's Cookies 2013

Santa's Cookies 2013

My beautiful niece and nephew


Aunt Linda's Christmas, here are MiMommy and DiDaddy

DiDaddy handing out gifts to my kiddos!

DiDaddy and MiMommy opening our gifts!

My lovely nieces!


Lauren's baby, Tyty

Happy January!

Big Green Egg Thanksgiving Turkey Review – by Hubby

I decided to smoke a turkey on the Big Green Egg. My wife had planned her turkey out and was going to cook it in the oven and I thought it would be a good idea to smoke one also. I searched a bunch of websites and thought I had an idea of how to do it. I was going to inject it with some butter, apple cider and chicken broth but got over ruled and was told that we will basically do the same thing to the both turkeys and see which is better… My first thought was “thats not fair, I have never smoked a turkey while she has cooked several turkeys in the oven” I soon over came that fear and realized a bigger fear “I have never smoked a turkey on the BGE before and now I'm doing it for the first time for a family gathering”
Well I went with the consensus on most websites and decided the temp would be set at 325 and would use hickory for the wood. My lovely wife chopped up apples, onions, oranges and carrots along with two cinnamon sticks and we both used that for the cavity stuffing. We both seperated the skin from our turkeys and seasoned underneath (her idea and a good one at that). We did not use the same seasoning due to mine being on a smoker I used more traditional bbq rubs (Fiesta fajita seasoning, Texas Pepper Belly and Nolan Ryan bbq rub) we both coated the turkeys with canola oil. All that done and the BGE was brought to 325 and stablelized.
I put the turkey on a V rack over a drip pan breast side up. I was planning on 12-15 minutes per pound and since it was a 12 pound turkey expected a 2.5 to 3 hours cook time. We were planning for a 1:00pm dinner and at 10 the turkey went in the BGE. I had good smoke and temp was perfect and returned to the kitchen to help the wife with side dishes. My wife used a champagne and poured half over the turkey and the other half in a glass…. little did I know, I was going to need a drink before all said and done.
Things were wrapping up in the kitchen and I was about to start cleaning up before the guests arrived. Turkey has been on for an hour and i decided to check on it. The temp probe was placed precisely in the middle of the left breast. I checked the reading and panic set in! It was reading 165 after just one hour. The turkey had a nice color and the legs were pulling back but it had only been an hour. I quickly grabbed a second temp probe and carefully pushed it into the right breast… yep it was confirmed, the second reading was 164… Great! I had told everyone that I was going to smoke a turkey and there is no way Im going to feed anyone a turkey that cooked in an hour. I flipped the turkey over and checked the back with a probe and got a reading of 145. I kept the turkey breast side down for about 20 to 25 minutes and the temp was checked again and read 157. I flipped it back over so the breast side was now up and placed a piece of foil over the breast… where is my drink.. (prep alert: if you think you are going to place foil on your meat during cooking, you should preform the foil before starting to cook. My wonderful wife did this for me and after having my little panic attack and a beer or two, was able to easly cover the breast) I left the turkey to cook another 15 minutes and decided I could not go any longer and pulled it off, wrapped it in foil and set it aside.
When the oven turkey was done we started carving and I got to say that the oven turkey was a lot juicier than the one on the BGE. The smoked turkey was not dry by any means (believe it or not) but was not as juicy as my wife's turkey. A little sample of both turkeys and I got to say it was hard to determine which tasted better. If you like the smoke meat taste then you would go with the BGE turkey if not then hers. Both turned out great and got great reviews from our guests. So now you know how to cook a full turkey in an hour and a half….
Tips: all the reading I did I decided to go simple on the flavors and am happy about that decision. There are mixed reviews on brining and I chose not to and feel that it did not take away from the flavor. I read one tip on a website (sorry, cant remember which one) that suggested placing an ice pack on the breast for about 20 minutes prior to cooking. This allows the breast to take longer to get to temp and allows the rest of the turkey to finish with the breast, not after. This is one thing i will do next time.
Green Big Egg Smoked Turkey recipe:
prep time: about 20 to 30 minutes. This includes rinsing(cold water), drying and adding rubs and stuffing
Temp: 325 (next time i will lower it to 300)
Ingredients: 12 pound turkey, Nolan Ryan BBQ seasoning, Texas Pepper belly, Fiesta Fajita seasoning, canola oil to coat the turkey prior to cooking.

A Few Lotta Things

Ok, So I have been really BAD and have not kept up with blogging. I apologize for not keeping up with posts. There are so many things I want to share and it seems that every time I wanted to sit down and blog, I found something else needing my time! Holidays make me start lots of projects. Most of our projects take a few weeks or weekends due to our other two kiddos coming every other week. We have made it a rule to do the most we can as a whole family. It is never the same when my step children are missing. We all have a sense of melancholy, wishing they were here with us.
When we do have them with us, we get busy playing, decorating, hunting and just loving life as usual.
in honor of Ron Burgundy.
We are on week three without my husband's kiddos. We gave them up for Thanksgiving on our Monday so they could spend time with their GG. This year is the X's turn for Thanksgiving and we get them for Christmas. We are extremely excited to have them for Christmas this year. We also get them for Spring Break for the first time ever. I am already planning our trip!
Thanksgiving was great!
I hosted Thanksgiving (well I guess I should say “we”, but i did most of the cooking and my husband most of the eating!) and it was a huge success. We had two turkeys. one was smoked in our Green Egg (because my husband loves that thing just a little too much..)
I came up with my own recipe for my roasted turkey! It was DELISH! Here is the recipe. I failed (as usual) to take pictures of our gathering and of my turkey! Maybe the half bottle of unused champgne should have waited… having a glass a few glasses of champagne helped this hostess relax and have a good time cooking!
Some of the products used for both turkeys and for baking!
Apple pie in the making!
My husband making his famous shrimp sauce, we also had shrimp!
my aromatics, yellow onion, carrots, apples, and cinnamon sticks!
my turkey, i chopped yellow onion and carrots for added flavor.
I only have a picture of our smoked turkey in the GBE, I am happy to share that my turkey was the winner as far as preference by our family. I loved my husband's smoked turkey! It was moist and very flavorful. He did good. You can read his experience about smoking it here!
Green Egg smoked turkey – This Bad boy was freaking awesome, my husband did great!
We ate around 1pm, we had plenty of food and a great time chatting with family. We ended the evening by watching the cowboys win! By the end of the night, I was feeling extremely sick and ready for bed. I was glad that my head cold gave me an extra day to make it through Thanksgiving.
Baby H is now a happy 5 month old baby boy! He is so BIG and is becoming more independent. He likes to watch tv on the couch and had his first cold. He did well and got over it quickly! I was not so lucky! You can read more about month 5 here!
I hope everyone is enjoying spending time with family and friends. I might get on line later and do some shopping.
Happy Monday!

Baby H: 5 months old!

We started month 5 being more independent and enjoying tv time with the family. Our little rascal has fun sitting all by himself on the couch watching tv. He needs to be supported because he falls forward face down or sideways. He is trying really hard to sit up and can bring himself up if he starts to fall forward. He will sit for a little while watching tv then asks for us to pick him up. He is no longer fascinated with fingers in his mouth, but is memorized with opening and closing his hands. He will do this for over 10 minutes, we find it hilarious!
Haskell wakes up every morning by 6am and I nurse him. During the weekends he plays well alone in his crib while mom and dad sleep some more. He ends up falling back asleep until 8am. He is hungry and acting like if I don't feed him I will watch him die of starvation… a bit dramatic but it works and mom wakes up to feed him! He does not get formula until past 10am. He is now transitioning to mostly formula. He has done this without skipping a beat, the kid is a trooper. My supply has adjusted smoothly. No pain, leaking, or soreness.
If you are doing fine with breast feeding exclusively, great! Do not start adding formula in the evenings because you hope it will keep baby full at night and therefore, asleep. It does not work. Haskell gets formula all day up to night time and he still wakes up, maybe out of routine, but more than likely because he is not ready to sleep through the night. I will wait on him since I have no control!

Haskell has zero tolerance for belly time. We have to force it each time. He is so advanced on holding his own weight and wanting to be on his feet all the time that I am not too worried about it. He pushes his butt up high on the air and wants to crawl, anything other than being on his belly. He just hates it. I am going to continue to do belly time even if it is 2 minutes.

Our older kiddos are doing great and continue to be great little helpers. They know how to fix a bottle so we can run errands or leave the house ready for baby! A happy baby is a happy family!
I will be writing a post about all the things we do or buy that are truly unnecessary and can wait until wanted or actually needed by baby and parents. I have three nursing covers that I have used maybe once. I have socks that (newborn size) were never used.
Here is where we are as a 5 month old:

Weight: He is at 16.8 with clothes on. You can prob take away at least 6-8 ounces for clothing. He is a chunky monkey and very long. He was at almost 27 inches on his 4 month wellcheck, so I am sure we are there now.

Clothing: Haskell is wearing 9 months clothing. 3-6 months were skipped bc he was too long. I finally went shopping for Haskell last week. I had so much from my shower that I did not have a need. He is growing so quickly that I finally had to break down and go find some good pieces for Church and for Christmas. See pics below for all the pieces I have ready from today's laundry!
On the top two pictures he is wearing 12 months from Baby Gap
Sleep: Haskell goes to bed between 8pm-9pm and fusses when we have gone past his night time. He takes longer naps during the day but wake ups all through the night. He is all over the place on waking up at night. by midnight he wakes up, sometimes he is hungry so I nurse him. Sometimes, I wake him up around 11ish to nurse him. He wakes up again around 2am and finally at 4am. I am doing nothing to promote or stop this behavior so I cant be too upset when I am walking around half asleep. It has become a routine and a way of life for me. I no longer need the extra sleep to make up for waking up at night unless I get ill. Generally I am up for about 5 minutes and we are both back to sleep.

Social: Haskell is still my traveling buddy and gets lots of opportunity to socialize with everyone around us. We make all PTA meetings, older kiddos school activities and naps while mom walks off some of the baby weight he helped me gain! His personality is very friendly, he does great in social settings. He is only serious when he is sleepy or past 8pm.

Diet: Haskell continues to be fed both breast milk and formula. We are now mainly doing formula ( Similac Advance formula purchased at Costco). I have started weaning him slowly by reducing the feedings on breasts. He has not acted like he cares. I am currently breast feeding at night before or after he is in bed and in the mornings when he wakes up. He gets about 6 ounces each time. In addition to those 4 feedings, he has about 6 bottles of 6 ounces each. I always start with 4 ounces and have to turn around and make 2 more ounces. Everyone takes turns feeding him. I don't plan on introducing solids until past 6 months, mainly because my husband has asked that I wait and because we are following our pediatrician advise. She is very conservative and it works well with us. I am not sure if I will try rice cereal, I honestly don't remember doing rice cereal with my first two girls. I will discuss what foods to introduce first with our pediatrician and go from there. I am not big on following any specific book out there but like to read to compare what others have tried or recommend. In the end I follow what works for my family based on our way of life.
Health: Haskell and I experienced our first head cold. I got it worse but continued to nurse him though I was feeling like crap. Baby boy did just fine, he had a few nights of a stuffy nose and fussed a little more so I nursed him more on those few days. We finally got through the worse of it Thanksgiving night and the day after. I got to feeling pretty bad and felt absolutely drained. Lucky for us, my sister kept the girls from Thanksgiving dinner until Sat eve. I got to rest on Friday while my husband worked. No one else got it, so we were lucky! Other than a head cold, Haskell has never experienced any other illness. He did great with shots, no reaction, a mild temperature that made his rosy cheeks a bit brighter. So far he is a happy baby who always smiles.

Milestones: Haskell can pick himself up and sit back up, it is a neat thing to watch. He is not able to sit up alone and continues to give it a try. He is still very chatty and now likes to talk while I am either nursing him or bottle feeding him. He has figured out how to let you know he does not want to be fed. He closes his mouth in a straight line and jerks his head to the left or right very quickly. He also makes chocking sounds, this is really cute because clearly he is not chocking but he gets the point across.

Postpartum: I am feeling pretty good now days that I am back to working out and by working out, I mean walking! We are walking at least 3 miles around a nature preserve near our home. Pushing the stroller up those hills has to be helping me with something! SO far I reached my goal of 140! My next goal is to drop another 5 lbs and keep it off. Pretty hard during the holidays,but I will try my best as my kids repeat at whole lot! When I got pregnant I was at 135 which is 10 lbs more than where I should have been at. Thanksgiving was a really good excuse to relax and just eat everything in sight. I ate so much it was ridiculous! My favorite dessert was the pumpkin cream cheese cupcakes my niece Caroline made! I even brought some home from aunt Linda's.

Time has gone by so quickly, I am loving being at home. I had so many reservations about staying home and how I would cope with my husband being at home all day working. So far it has been unbelievably easy. There are times that I don't even get to see him because he is in and out of the office traveling to interview the folks he is investigating for fraud. Sometimes he will even eat at his desk, I make him lunch and let him take care of business. We have no issues there. We are lucky for the days that he can come sit with us outside while on a break or at lunch. Being at home with my husband was my biggest fear while discussing my stay at home and taking care of our newborn. As single parents when we met, we were used to our space and routines and as a married working couple we had developed a system. He understood and was very supportive of my fears. Now days, Haskell and I are very lucky when we get to see him once or twice a day. We are busy playing and laughing and doing a thousand chores and tackling the endless supply of dirty laundry. We have our own stuff to keep us busy!

I was happy for today, a new week after a much needed time with the family and lots of eating.. I am walking this eve with my two dear friends, Jen and Katelyn. Jen was a neighbor from my husband's first home after his divorce, they were the best neighbors and we became as close as family. We got lucky again after we purchased our current home with amazing neighbors next door. Katelyn and Mark have become family as well. Our kiddos play together and they are the nicest people you can meet. We also have two more families on our street that are great. Mark and Julie share their girls all the time so they can play with ours. I can go to any of these folks at any time, day or night and they would help me with anything. We are extremely blessed! Both Jen and Katelyn take care of Haskell the rascal while I am busy finishing up my Real Estate (i am now done and waiting on License) or running a quick errand. All these things help contribute to my overall well being and has helped me keep sane in these first 5 months. Katelyn and I can always chat about a hard day of work at home and as a Manager with a nice glass of wine. ha.

Happy Monday!

Bring on the Deer meat

It is Veteran's Day today and I am so thankful for this great country and for the remarkable men that have fought for each and everyone of us. God Bless them and their families!
The last few weeks have been going fast! I am barely keeping up with my calendar!
October marks a special time in our family, the start of Deer Season! We love the outdoors and love eating yummy deer sausage, deer ground meat and anything else my husband orders at the processing line.
I had two of my boys hunting this weekend on their Father/Son annual hunting trip. Our oldest son shot his first buck! He is a good shot just like Dad. We will be meeting up with Dad on Friday evening for the family weekend hunt, so the girls can hunt with Dad as well. Fun times! Our kiddos love the outdoors as much as we do and we are happy to get away to our Deer Lease as much as we can throught out the year. We have been lucky and have a great property we have called home for over 10 years.
Unfortunately our time in our current lease is coming to an end….We started the process of looking for new land and found a nice property in Arkansas. While I am not looking forward to the 4.5 hour drive, I know we will have tons of fun as a family so I will just let Dad do all the driving while i watch movies in the back with the kiddos!
Arkansas Deer Lease new site for our camper in AR, our new Deer Lease!
Scouting our new property, hard to see but Baby H is with Daddy. Our little Trooper!
trips like these are hard to make without our other two kiddos!
Is it Christmas yet?
Holidays seem to make time move a bit faster. I can't believe we are almost into the middle of November. I am hosting Thanksgiving at our home and I am really excited and looking forward to it. I am also getting the house ready for Christmas as I sit here and type this blog post. Our Christmas tree stand is MIA at the momment, hopefully it can be found before bed time! I wanted my tree up this past weekend and it did not happen!
I must get back to searching for my stand…. I know it is in the house, it is times like these that I am not glad for the three different attics in our lovely home!
Happy Monday!